By: Deb Monfette
Midlife sleep loss is real, and wellness expert Allie Theiss is helping women reclaim their sleep.
If you’re lying awake night after night—either struggling to fall asleep or waking at 2 AM with a racing mind—you’re not alone. Sleep issues are among the most common and disruptive symptoms of perimenopause and menopause. The physical toll is exhausting, but the emotional toll can feel even heavier.
So what’s actually happening—and what can be done to fix it?
To answer those questions, we spoke with Allie Theiss, MSc, CSC, ABS, a nationally recognized Menopausal Care Provider and Integrative Wellness Coach, and founder of Menopause Wellness. With over 20 years of experience in health and wellness, and as the creator of the Thrive™ Framework, Theiss is helping women understand that midlife sleep disruption isn’t their fault—and that healing, balance, and energy are possible with the right support.
Q: Allie, sleep seems to be one of the biggest complaints women have in midlife. Why is that?
Allie Theiss: It’s huge. And it’s one of the most overlooked pieces of the menopause transition. I always say that—if your sleep is off, everything else is off. Your energy, your mood, your metabolism, your relationships.
What most women don’t realize is that this isn’t a personal failure. It’s biochemical. As we go through perimenopause and menopause, estrogen and progesterone levels drop, and both of those hormones play key roles in regulating sleep.
Estrogen helps regulate your body temperature and supports REM sleep cycles. Progesterone has a calming, sedative-like effect. When those decrease, your sleep quality suffers, especially in the second half of the night.
Q: So those 2 or 3 AM wakeups aren’t random?
Theiss: Not at all. They’re typically caused by a combination of things:
- Drop in estrogen and progesterone affects REM and deep sleep
- Night sweats and cortisol spikes increase middle-of-the-night wakeups
- Blood sugar crashes contribute to 2 AM anxiety and insomnia
When your blood sugar dips overnight, your body sees it as a stressor and releases cortisol to compensate—and boom, you’re awake. Your heart might race, or you feel wide awake but anxious, along with an increased sensitivity to stress. This is incredibly common, and it’s not just “in your head.”
Q: How do you help women address these disruptions in your Thrive™ Framework?
Theiss: The Thrive™ Framework approaches wellness through six pillars, but when it comes to sleep specifically, I focus on creating what I call a “hormone-safe sleep environment.”
Here are some of the key strategies we use:
- Bedtime rituals – Establish a 60-minute wind-down routine that includes setting screen curfews and dimming the lighting.
- Cooling tools – Many women struggle with body temperature fluctuations. I recommend bamboo sheets, cooling pillows, mist sprays, and even keeping a quiet fan by the bed.
- Herbs and teas – Lemon balm, chamomile, and passionflower are wonderful herbal allies. They gently reduce anxiety without grogginess.
- Breathwork or gentle body-based practices before bed – Add in breathing or light stretching, and the body begins to unwind.
Q: Some women say, “I’ve tried it all, and nothing’s working.” What’s your advice for them?
Theiss: That’s such a common and heartbreaking statement. And I say this gently, if nothing is working, you probably haven’t been given the right tools for your current biology. What worked in your 30s may not be effective now. That’s not your fault. Your body has changed.
That’s why I created Sleep Reset™, a new mini-course designed specifically for midlife women. It teaches simple, natural techniques to reset your sleep rhythm with hormone-aware strategies.
The course includes topics such as food timing, stress reduction practices, and circadian rhythm syncing. And it’s not overwhelming—it’s designed for women who are already running on empty.
Q: We heard you’re also offering a new essential oil?
Theiss: Yes! Each course includes the option to receive my Sweet Dreams Essential Oil Roll-On. It’s a calming aromatherapy blend I formulated specifically to support sleep and ease nighttime anxiety. I designed it to be part of a wind-down ritual. Just roll it onto your wrists, chest, or pillow as you settle in. It’s a simple but effective cue to the body that it’s time to rest.
The essential oil and the course work beautifully together to help retrain the body and mind toward a healthier sleep cycle.
Q: Final thoughts for women reading this who are feeling discouraged, foggy, or flat-out exhausted?
Theiss: First and foremost, you’re not crazy, lazy, or making it up. What you’re feeling is real, and there’s science behind it. The emotional toll of sleep loss is massive, and it’s not just something to “push through.”
Second, healing is absolutely possible. When women start sleeping better, they feel like themselves again. They light up, they focus, they smile again. And that is the heart of this work: helping women reconnect with who they really are underneath the exhaustion.
Sleep isn’t a luxury. It’s a superpower. And every woman deserves to access that power, especially in midlife.
Coming July 2025: Sleep Reset™ A Mini-Course for Midlife Women
Created by Allie Theiss, this calming, self-paced program teaches midlife women how to naturally reset their sleep through hormone-aware strategies, soothing rituals, and lifestyle shifts rooted in her Thrive™ Framework.
Each course includes an optional Sweet Dreams Essential Oil Roll-On, a soothing aromatherapy blend to help ease anxiety and support deep, uninterrupted rest.
Learn more at MenopauseWellness.co or follow @menopausewellness.co on Instagram and TikTok.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is intended for general informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional before making any changes to your health or wellness routine.
